He, She, We, They Vacation
Every Year I attend a gathering of folks in the Mountains of Tennessee, one for the fall and one for the spring. I was without cell phone, internet, TV, newspapers and pretty much all electronic stuff. It was fantastic! 10 whole days I camped and did bodywork on those that consented to it. There were many discussion about consent, personal safety and personal pronouns as they refer to someone’s gender Identity.
We will be using the plural pronoun for ourselves during this blog post. We want to acknowledge that not everyone who is born in a female body wants to be referred to as SHE, same things goes with male bodies. Some people want to be referred to as HE and some like to be referred to as THEY or IT. Having respect for someone’s personal pronouns is important when talking about them when they are not in the room. Do you always respect someone’s Identified Gender? When you meet a stranger for the first time, do you ask how they wish to be addressed? Respecting Gender Identity is a big step for a lot of us. It takes some practice. We have had to apologize for not being mindful when addressing someone properly. Apologies go a long way.
Do you Consent?
Did your mother ever pop blackheads in your ears or on your face without asking you first if that’s what you wanted done? Have you ever automatically said “Here, let me help you with that,” without first ASKING if that person needed help? How about when someone tells you to hug a relative you don’t want to? You are not alone. Consent is taken from us all the time. We must realize that NO really does mean NO and we have to be okay with that.
Here is a FANTASTIC VIDEO on understanding consent. Having consent taken away from you through coercion, drugs, manipulation or force can have lasting affects on your physical, mental and spiritual well being and can make you feel unsafe; it can even make you say yes to things you normally wouldn’t. Non-consentual behavior can lead to stress and not feeling safe in your body. That was another point we talked about at the mountain.
Are you safe?
The world is a dangerous place. You could get hit by a bus tomorrow, but We hope you don’t. Feeling safe is a personal thing and taking steps to make sure you have a safe place to live, work, be social and thrive is important. You can read a GREAT ARTICLE on safe space from the Huffington Post. If you are a care giver CLICK HERE for a short article on creating a safe space for yourself. It is important for caregivers to have safety due to the work we do with people that have no healthy boundaries.
We ate lost of great food, danced, frolicked, and got really wet. I met some great new folks and made some new friends, like a man named Rio whos also a body worker. There was also a person(I never asked their gender) named Rabbit who has Asperger’s Syndrome who connected with me not only on that level, but as a Capricorn with an amazing sense of their self and a sense of humor. The food is always amazing and it’s normally vegetarian and they honour those with gluten and other allergies. If you’d like to ponder attending a gathering with us we would be happy to talk more about it.
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5 Simple Ways to Honor Your Breasts (and Your Body)
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month and while there may be some controversy around wearing pink, we are making this month about YOU, whether you have breast cancer or not. (Men, I’m looking at you too.)
Cancer isn’t predictable and it isn’t pretty, but here are a few simple ways to take care of yourself and honor your breasts.
Lead by Example
Perform monthly self breast exams, get knowledgeable about your body, and schedule regular mammograms. Make sure you schedule a clinical breast exam with your primary care physician, too. Set a good example for the loved ones around you by incorporating healthy practices. This can include, starting a garden, eating as organic as possible, exercising regularly, and packing healthy lunches for your kids.
Talk to Your Family and Friends
Teach your children about self care and good breast health. Tell them about the health risks that come with smoking and alcohol. Talk with your kids, siblings, parents and grandparents about your family’s health history. Consider talking to your sister, mom, or best friend about getting a mammogram – or go together!
Give a Meaningful Gift
Craniosacral Therapy is a powerful gift for someone suffering from any form of Cancer. Getting someone the gift of healing bodywork is one of the most amazing things you can do for someone. Just make sure they Consent.
Consider raising money for a good cause, attending a local event, or starting your own fundraiser during the month of October. Plan a breast health workshop or class in your school, organization, or community. Get involved and make a difference.
Take Care of Yourself
Put in the effort to take care of yourself and this goes beyond eating right. Of course, it’s good to avoid processed foods, but also make sure you are exercising and curbing any habits that negatively affect your health. Replace them with good ones. Turn your 10 minute smoke break into a 10 minute walk break. Avoid staying up to late and try hitting the sack even 20 minutes earlier. Change your monthly Girl’s Night into a Girl’s Spa Day and get massages. [insert your link here]
It’s all about little changes to make small steps toward health. Breast health goes beyond routine breast exams, it starts with the food you eat and getting outdoors to everything in between.